Self Care is Individual

I was listening to a creator say that what we call “self-care” is really “Self-Maintenance”. That self-care should be nourishing and not just something that we do for maintenance.

 Of course I needed to look up the word care. It sounded profound, but I wanted to be sure.

Define Care

Care is defined as, per Merriam Webster:

·         Suffering of mind

·         Uncertainty, apprehension, and responsibility

·         Watchful attention

·         Maintenance

·         Regard coming from desire or esteem

Based on the way that we use the phrase I would say self-care is, in fact, self-maintenance. It is also self-responsibility and self-regard.

Reminder of Self

Self is what makes you unique or different from someone else.

Putting it together

Self-Care to me would be the:

Unique way that you take responsibility for yourself, as well as how you maintain yourself.

Thoughts..

Based on this and what the creator was discussing, there is a need to reevaluate how we do self-care. Many of do the societal standards of self-care without knowing the “self” part of the equation. What are the things that “I” or “you” need in order to maintain a sense of wellness?

Are there certain activities that specifically bring a feeling of balance, equilibrium, or peace?

I know what societal things I have enjoyed, but only after pondering this did, I even consider the question.

“What are the things my Ori chose prenatally that would be means of “self-care”?”

What I learned about myself

There isn’t much you can’t learn from your blueprints:

·         Odu

·         Astrology

·         Numerology

·         Human Design

·         Tarot – Specifically your Birthday Cards

·         *Gene Keys may have insight, I didn’t check that one yet

In looking at my various blueprints, I learned some interesting things just looking at some of the key placements. Much I believe I knew, some was told to me via various divination.

·         Journaling isn’t just a habit that I’m trying to develop, it’s actually energetic medicine for me.

·         Rearranging my house over and over is actually a form of energetic maintenance

·         I need moments of solitude or I will burn out

·         Knowing what to share and what to keep to myself

·         Trusting my intuition around all manner of things

·         Creative outlets

·         Dance and sensual movement helps me empty my mind

When I initiated one of the things my godmother told me was that my Ori required silent retreats. I realize sometimes when I’m in the car alone I go between dancing while driving or simply having nothing turned on. Yesterday was a day of just quiet introspection while I was driving.

What do I intend to do with this insight?

Is this going to be just information or will it become knowledge that I cultivate into wisdom. With things being how they are, I’m definitely going to make space to care for myself better.

·         I started journaling about my day, my thoughts and feelings again. I’m going to make sure I stay devoted to this practice as it truly has helped me release.

·         I am going to schedule a day of rest where I can just be. I tend to be an overgiver. Building days of rest is sacred to me.

·         Create for fun. This one is going to be a challenge but I am going to endeavor to allow some creations to be for me, even if they end up being a blessing to others later in the future.

·         Vacations. More than just 1 day. Time away from everyone that is just for me to unwind.

Even as an Iyanifa, I am at my best when I’m balanced, healthy, and feeling well nourished. The more I do this for myself, the more my community can learn to do the same.

Self-care that is truly aligned to our energetic blueprint is how we quietly rise above oppression and take care of our sacred selves.

How can you learn what to look for in your blueprint?

Here are a few ways to learn more:

·         Send a donation and I’ll share a pdf of the placements and what the represent for you to interpret (Suggested donation $16)

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·         Send a donation (along with all of your birthday information) and I’ll do the leg work of putting together your Self-Care Blueprint for you. (Suggested Donation $33 - $88 – Blueprint will either cover 1 or 3 sets of information with a summary)

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Thank you so much for reading. I hope that you take the time to learn what Self-Care truly means for you personally and then implement that into your life.

Ase!